As one of my favorite creators who pops up regularly on my FYP says, “Let’s get one thing straight and two things gay.”
A few days ago, I was having a conversation about our children’s predicted heights. Joe is very tall, as those of my friends and family who follow this blog know. I said that our daughter was predicted to be 6 feet tall.
This statement was met with, “She will never be able to wear heels.”
The conversation continued roughly as follows (I don’t remember the exact rundown, so disrespectfully fuck off if that bothers you):
Me: “She can wear heels all she wants.”
Them: “She’ll be too tall for that.”
Me: “I don’t care about male fragility.”
Them: “But the height difference.”
Me: “Joe did it.”
Them: “But it’s different for girls.”
So let’s get one thing straight and two things gay, I do not give a single fuck. First, she’s a child, so this shouldn’t even be in question at this point in time. Ew. Second, if your ego is so small that you can’t date a girl taller than you, you’re a weenie. Third, I will absolutely teach my daughter standards. She will know that if someone doesn’t want to date her because of her height, they aren’t worth her time anyway. I will also teach her that she does not need to change herself, how she dresses, or anything else to please a man. We don’t do that here. (Ask my husband, who left with a wife with hair past her shoulders and who came home from deployment to me with a shaved head. I do not care. We do not do that here.) If she wants to wear 3 feet tall heels because it makes her happy, if I do my job right, SHE WILL! It doesn’t matter what you think she should or shouldn’t do. Not to mention, we don’t actually even know if she’ll be that tall. However, this goes for not only my children, but anyone out there who reads this:
There will be people, no matter what you do, who you are, what you look like, and what you wear, that aren’t worth your time because they can’t accept you as you are. To someone else, you will always be too much or too little. So do whatever you want (within reason, obviously. Don’t go breaking laws or anything). If it makes you happy, do it. If you want to shave your head, tattoo it, wear stilts, or whatever else, do it. Don’t base your decisions or your self-worth on anyone else’s opinions. I spent too much of my life doing it, and it was miserable.
Choose you. Choose happiness.
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